There is some unexplained mystery in the universe that I don't understand. There will be these long spans where no one asks me out and then all it takes is one day one guy asks me out and it breaks through the cursed drought and then suddenly it's like some message is sent out in the universe that the curse has been broken and all sorts of guys start asking me out at the same time. It's always like this, all or nothing. Sometimes I wish they could just come one at a time, but it never seems to happen that way. What causes this is such a mystery to me, it almost feels like all the guys are plotting together haha.
But in this craziness I have not had time to blog for a while, until this week where I am back to my drought of no dates and I have decided to veto life for the week. So, since I have time I thought I'd share a bad date/(so bad I don't even count it as a date) that I had a few days ago. Even though most of my dates have been great, I share this as a funny story and a reminder of what not to do.
So a guy asked me out on a date. He started out great--called in advanced and had a plan, or so I thought. He asked me to go to a movie-which I must say is not a great first date idea because it's hard to get to know someone that way. But I was fine with it. Then he gave me 6 suggestions of movies we could see. I told him I would love to see any of the 5, but the only one I didn't want to see was "Snow White and the Huntsman". And, just a couple days before this I had been talking with him in a group of people and talking about how much I did not want to see this movie. So the next day he came to pick me up. He said "Is it ok if we go see Snow White and the Huntsman"? In my head I thought "Really? The only one I did not want to see? I'm not trying to be picky or selfish because I liked all the other suggestions and said I would see any of the other ones." But then I thought the movie might not be as bad as it looked in the previews, so I thought I should give it a shot, so I said "ok." So this was strike 1. Then it turned out we were going with a group of friends so we met at another friend's house and it was then I found out that it was a double showing and we wouldn't be home until 3 am. I told my date that I needed to be home by midnight, so I could only stay for the first show, to which he replied "I'm gonna stay for both shows." Strike, Strike. So, I was going to be stuck without a ride, 20 miles from my house in the scariest neighborhood in the entire state, where you basically need a bullet-proof vest to walk through. Fortunately, a cuter guy who I don't even know offered to give me a ride home. At the movie I had ended up paying for my own ticket, so I was only too happy to leave early with the other guy. Oh, and did I mention that my date talked about himself the whole time--I asked him lots of questions and he didn't ask me questions back. No one should have to put up with a "date" like that.
All it takes is simple basic life and gospel principles: Be unselfish and thoughtful. That's what it takes to have a successful relationship, even if you have zero dating skills-you will be successful if you both put the other person's needs before your own. Be interested in the other person's life and wants and needs. If you do this, you will be a successful dater.
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